Pearls

I learned some years ago that each difficult situation in life is an opportunity to undergo a process of refinement and transformation similar to the process that produces pearls.  

Pearls are produced when an irritant enters an oyster’s shell. In an attempt to protect itself from the irritant, the oyster secretes a substance called nacre (also known as “mother of pearl”), encasing the irritant in an effort to seal it off. The buildup of nacre around the irritant results in the creation of a pearl. A naturally occurring pearl is a highly valued gemstone, and has become a metaphor for rare beauty.  

So, an irritant surrounded by the protective coating of an oyster can be considered a work in progress—a potential pearl. Similarly, the more trials we face the more opportunity we have to create something rare and beautiful.  Irritants are difficult situations that drain our strength, yet have the potential to produce pearls. But while the pearls are being produced, we must take care of ourselves.  Here are some suggestions that have been valuable to me over the years and that have helped me to love me during the pearl making process:  

1. Take “Me Time,” a 15-minute break to think about you and what you need. Hopefully 15 minutes is just a start.  

2. Create a “Go to Place,” a safe space full of cherished items (e.g., a silk flower, a journal, a fragrant candle, a favorite pillow, a favorite chair)  

3. Set your bathroom up as a spa. You don’t need much: candles, bath salts, bath oils, bath foams, shower gels--whatever you need to relax. Make sure your spa is ready for use at anytime. Do not get upset if others use it when they see how it benefits you. Just keep it replenished for your needs.  

4. Shop for cards that make you feel good and send them to yourself. I love opening a card that makes me smile and feel good inside. Sometimes the words are so sweet that I find a frame for the card.  

5. Each time you shop for your family get something for yourself (e.g., a candy bar, a candle, make-up, nail polish.) It doesn't have to be big. It just has to be for you--something that will make you smile before unpacking the bags.  

These are just a few examples of what blesses me.  Ladies, you are creative people.  Others benefit from your gifts, from your pearl process. It is time that you benefit also. Look inside yourselves and discover the beauty that lies within. Bless yourselves.  

A Work In Progress