Aggressive Girls

"I can't believe how physical these girls are with my son. And they text him day and night and call his cell phone late at night. We are really at a loss as to how handle these girls."

My husband and I run the Parents of Teens small group in our church. One of the conversations our group has had is with frustrated parents of teen boys. They are struggling with how to handle aggressive teen girls- a problem they never anticipated. 

The problem is real. More girls initiate contact with boys and push for sexual activity. They are encouraged to be aggressive by pop culture. And many boys are growing up without male leadership in their homes, confused about their identities and unsure how they are supposed to treat girls who come on to them. 

So be proactive with your sons and talk to them about ways to handle aggressive girls. Train your sons in proper ways to treat a girl and discuss protocols and expectations of texting, late night calls and physical limits.

To parents of daughters, help daughters see a healthy perspective regarding their sexuality. This is helped by dads who show affection and interest in their teen daughters. Talk to daughters about modest dress and appropriate conduct with boys. We have to point out what the culture teaches that leads to problems. 

Let's help our teens make sense of what they see on television, movies and other media. It's not an easy world for them to navigate.  

Dr. Linda Mintle, Issue #36

Picture by:  Jon Keegan